Choosing a wedding dress is tough for many second time brides. After all, there are traditions and etiquette expectations to navigate. Luckily, society and wedding expectations are moving away from the stiff etiquette rules that governed second weddings in the past.
Instead of intimate quiet ceremonies followed by luncheons, remarrying brides are enjoying full-scale weddings and receptions. In part, this is because of the growing percentage of 2nd time around couples who pay for the whole wedding out of their own pocket. Holding the purse strings means couples can call the shots without worrying about the dreaded “e” word: expectations.
Still, some brides may be uncomfortable breaking with tradition, and that is okay! We’ve created this article with all the traditions and expectations for second weddings in mind. When you select your wedding gown and accessories, we want you to be prepared for all things second wedding dress.
As a bonus, we’ve rounded up our top picks that are perfect for the occasion.
Second Wedding Wardrobe Etiquette
Let’s break down the traditional etiquette surrounding second weddings for the bridal wardrobe, particularly the one burning question that often comes up first.
Can I Still Wear White?
Although your great-grandmother may clutch her pearls at the idea of not wearing a white wedding dress, this is actually a fairly new tradition. In fact, wearing a white wedding dress originated with Queen Victoria. Before her royal wedding to Prince Albert in 1837, brides of the time just wore their best dress.
The trend-setting queen launched a new world for the white wedding gown. A white gown traditionally symbolizes innocence, virginity, and purity. Because of this, it became a faux pas for a bride to wear white on her second trip down the aisle, unless she had a very short first marriage or had eloped.
Like we said, times have changed. Brides are bucking the restrictions of old traditions to celebrate their fairytale weddings, snow-white gown and all!
If you’d prefer not to wear white, there are ways around it. Many brides elect to purchase a gown in a gentle shade of ivory, ecru or even blush.
Scrap the Full-Length Veil
One piece of wedding wardrobe etiquette that hasn’t budged much surrounds the veil. Like a white dress, the veil covering the face is representative of youth and innocence. This carries a special meaning when the groom lifts the veil from his bride’s face for the first time. Because the bride is not traditionally given away a second time, the veil is also not typically lifted again.
Brides seeking remarriage should instead experiment with face-framing veils, birdcage veils or even ornate hairpieces. A long veil cascading down the back and not covering the face is also acceptable for weddings that are very formal in style.
To Garter or Not to Garter?
Deciding to wear a traditional garter and participate in your garter toss is your decision. Let’s take a look at the meaning behind the garter toss to help you make your choice.
The garter toss dates way, way back to a time when guests believed the bridal garments would bring good luck. Back in the day, reception-goers would chase the bride around, tearing off pieces of her dress until she finally wised up and tossed her garters to the crowd instead. The tradition is for first-time brides, but luck is in the eye of the beholder!
The same goes for bouquet toss. The bride’s bouquet was considered good luck, and the woman who received it would be next to marry. Oftentimes the bouquet toss is painfully awkward for all the single women in the room, and your guests probably wouldn’t be sad to skip it. If you don’t want to do a bouquet toss at your second wedding, make a lovely speech instead and present it to someone special at the reception.
Second Marriage Gown Tips for Older Brides
When you are in your 20s or 30s a second marriage is easier to get away with doing it all over again – big dress and all. Almost as if the first time never happened. Take Megan Markle, can you name her first husband? Trevor Engelson who? No images popped into our minds of Megan walking down the aisle during her destination wedding in Jamaica on her FIRST big day.
But when it comes to older ladies, who may come with a little more noticeable baggage (i.e., children who are now all grown up), what exactly should an older bride wear? Well we think whatever she darn well pleases!
Choose something that flatters your figure and makes you feel good wearing. If that means a ball gown at 70, all the more power to you. Here are a few tips and suggestions for those round-two brides who want to feel beautiful, classy, and gorgeous on their big day.
Take Note of Wedding Location
Having a casual backyard garden summer ceremony? Think feminine and flowery. Something like the dress pictured below would be a flattering choice for an older bride. It shows off your feminine curves, has creamy champagne lace that still says bride, and you’ll stay cool and comfortable in the hot summer sun. A very elegant piece for a summer wedding.
Heading to the courthouse followed by a nice dinner out on the town? Not wanting to slip into a fancy frock?
Why not try a pant suit with a classic set of triple-strand cultured pearls like this ensemble below.
Style & Dare to be Different
Find a gown that isn’t your normal go-to silhouette. Surprise your partner in something that makes you feel glamorous and sexy, but is still classic and tasteful.
Textures, Patterns, Glitz and Color
Light silver, light blue, champagne, blush, cream or ivory are all lovely colors for mature 2nd marriage bridal gowns. Look for dresses with beautiful textures and patterns that will add an elegance to the dress.
Where to Dress Shop
If you have already walk down the aisle once before and blow an absurd amount of money at the bridal shop, you will most likely be wiser this time around and use your extra moola for the honeymoon. Look online at bridesmaids dresses that come in champagne, ivory or blush that you can glam up with a sash or jewelry. Be sure to steer clear of bridal shops and look for formal/cocktail dresses at department stores such as:
- Bloomingdale’s: dresses for every wedding and vibe, a variety of cuts and styles made by top designers
- Dillards: affordable dresses, as low as $70
- Neiman Marcus
There are also many top online shops that offer amazing wedding gowns at all different price points, which you can read more about.
Second Wedding Etiquette Tips
There are a lot of traditions and etiquette tidbits revolving around second weddings that don’t have to do with wardrobe, either! While you’re dress-shopping, you may consider what your bridesmaids will wear. Here’s a heads-up on etiquette concerning the wedding party and the processional during the ceremony!
- The bride and groom typically do not have a huge wedding party. Instead, one or two friends may “stand up” for the bride and groom during the ceremony.
- There usually isn’t a processional of parents, grandparents, and wedding party members at a second wedding. Instead, the bride traditionally enters from the side.
- As mentioned before, the father does not give away the bride again. Typically toasts like the father-daughter toast at the rehearsal dinner — if there is a rehearsal dinner at all — are also done away with.
Second Wedding Dresses We Love (Not Quite White)
Flower Wedding Dress
Stunning is the first word that comes to mind when you see this flower dress.
So many elements make this lovely dress unique, from the gorgeous hued floral embroidery to the flowing split sleeves and the plunging v-neck. You won’t even need a flower girl with all the breathtaking foliage on this gown!
Boho Wedding Dress
While the standard boho dress has become a little mainstream, this boho dream certainly isn’t!
Crafted with an alluring deep blue overlay, the colorful floral embroidery truly stands out. Underneath is a nude satin chemise with a sweetheart neck and a drop waist. Even from the back, the deep V of this gown will make everyone stop and stare.
Champagne Mini Dress
This stunning mini dress is a sparkling vision in champagne, designed for those who love a little glamour. The Annie Sequin Tiered Mini Dress combines a playful, tiered silhouette with all-over sequins, creating a captivating shimmer with every movement.
Perfect for cocktail parties, wedding receptions, or any event where you want to shine. Crafted responsibly, it’s as sustainable as it is stylish.
Mestiza Georgiana Gown
Looking for colorful, non-traditional wedding dresses?
Consider this cool, blue beauty. Its strapless square neck is oh so modern, as is the full high-low skirt. From top to bottom, it’s covered in brilliant cobalt florals. It’s the ideal white gown for your wedding, just with a touch of pizzazz!
Chapman Naomi Dress
This V. Chapman Naomi Dress in Cashmere Blue is simply breathtaking! We love the soft, luxurious fabric and how it hugs in all the right places, creating a stunning silhouette. The stretchy material ensures a comfortable fit while still looking elegant and refined.
Mac Duggal Yvette Dress
Those on the hunt for non-traditional plus-size wedding dresses surely won’t want to pass up this ethereal gown.
We adore that it isn’t a white gown. Instead, using silver, pinks, and peaches on a glamorous gray bodice and skirt. The sweeping train works so well with the capped sleeves and modest neckline; we just can’t take our eyes away!
Embroidered Gown
White wedding dresses move over; there’s a new bridal gown in town!
This eye-popping ensemble is completely covered in the most brilliant florals. Lovely flowers in every size, shape, and color make this dress look like it was designed by mother nature herself. A 3D bouquet is certainly non-traditional wedding attire in the most beautiful way possible.
Mac Duggal Evonna Dress
We think this would be the perfect choice for a more mature bride, a second wedding, or a vow renewal.
The soft pink is a great color choice that is neither too traditional nor edgy. We love the modesty of the high neckline and flowing sleeves paired with the see-through back. All over beadwork is the shimmering icing on top!
Marchesa Notte Sequin Embroidered Tulle Gown
This exquisite Marchesa Notte gown combines elegance and drama with its delicate tulle base, adorned with intricate embroidery and sparkling sequins. The sequin embellishments create a captivating shimmer effect, perfect for evening events where you want to make a statement.
Designed to flatter with a fitted bust and waist and a slightly relaxed hip, this gown offers both comfort and sophistication. With its striking black color and luxurious detailing.
More Second Wedding Dresses We Love: White
Now that you’re armed with all the details about second wedding dress traditions and expectations, you’re ready to make informed decisions about the style of your wedding dress. Here are some of our favorites that ensure you’re a tasteful vision on the big day!
1. Tulle Plunging V-Neck Lace Gown
This ivory and lace ball gown is a vision! Live your very own fairytale in a layered soft tulle skirt with a pink-tinted underskirt giving this ball gown a diffused sparkle like fairy dust. The ivory shade is off-white, but still elegantly bridal.
2. Halter Sheath Wedding Dress
by DB Studio
This sleek silhouette is perfect for the modern bride, in a warm shade of ivory. The halter neckline is clean and on-trend, and the appliques on the gown are symmetrical to create a chic visual interest.
3. Signature Sheer Beaded Bodice Organza A-Line Wedding Dress
by Galina
This A-Line gown from Galina is a true show-stopper. With layers of gentle blush and ivory, the gown is perfect for a second wedding. It also features 5,000 hand-placed crystals beads and sequins. It is excellent for a bride with a daring, fashion-forward side, with a plunging neckline and delicate straps across the back.
4. Sweep-Brush Train Lace V-Neck Wedding Dress
by CocoMelody
This lace V-neck gown has downtown chic written all over it. The v-neckline, fitted bodice, and stretchy crepe constructions will flatter the curves on any body type making this the perfect second bridal look no matter what your age or size.
5. Long Sleeve Lace Wedding Dress with Open Back
by CocoMelody
This gown by Coco Melody hugs the curves and ends in a delicate court train. An all-over lace applique makes the look timeless, while the striking back detail offers just the right amount of daring. The ivory or champagne shades are both great selections for a second wedding.
Even More Second Wedding Dresses We Love
Fairy Wedding Dresses
Skip the stiff satin and overdone sparkle. For your second walk down the aisle, choose a dress that feels like you. Fairy wedding dresses are for the bride who’s done the big ballgown thing – and now craves something softer, freer, wilder. Think flowing chiffon, romantic sleeves, whisper-light capes, and corset bodices that flatter without trying too hard.
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Bridal Suit
Who says a wedding dress needs to be a dress? Bridal suits flip the script with clean lines, crisp tailoring, and undeniable confidence. These aren’t just outfits – they’re declarations. For the bride who’s doing it her way (again or for the first time), a white tuxedo, blazer mini, or peplum suit brings edge without sacrificing elegance.
Jumpsuit
Bridal jumpsuits are all about freedom, confidence, and effortless cool. Whether you’re walking down the aisle, hitting the courthouse, or dancing at your reception, these sleek one-pieces deliver impact without the fluff.
From halterneck linen to flowy wide-legs, each look feels bold but wearable—like something you could actually move in, laugh in, be yourself in. We love these for second weddings, civil ceremonies, or anyone skipping the princess look for something with edge. Because love isn’t always traditional, and neither is the outfit.
Boho Wedding Dress
Not every bride wants the ballroom. Boho dresses are made for barefoot vows, salty air, and saying yes under the open sky. With wrap silhouettes, crepe that moves like water, and sleeves that float like a breeze, these gowns feel less like formalwear and more like freedom.
Black Wedding Dress
White isn’t for everyone—and that’s exactly the point. Black wedding dresses are bold, unapologetic, and dripping with drama. For the bride rewriting tradition on her own terms, a black gown speaks louder than lace ever could.
Got a gown you love for your second trip down the aisle? Why not share with other brides using the comment section below!
tanya sanders
February 12, 2019 at 12:45 pmI’m looking for a particular dress above but not having any luck finding it anywhere. Do you kno where i can find the white knee length dress off the shoulder, 3/4 length lace sleeves by Adrianna Papell?
Helpful ReviewVendor
February 13, 2019 at 4:27 amHi Tanya,
I apologise that the links on this post were out of date (Post now updated as of Feb 13, 2019). I did a quick search online, and unfortunately it looks like Macy’s no longer offers this gown.
However, I did find it on another site called baliratihbodycare.com. Please note that I have never shopped from this website and I cannot vouche for them. So please be careful and do your own research before buying from that particular online store.
Let me know if you have any other questions. Happy to help!
Regards,
Helpful ReviewMeredith
Terrie
February 16, 2019 at 5:59 amhttps://www.ebay.com/i/223384327407?chn=ps Size 6 only. The only site first mentioned is not a secure site so as she said, I would not be very careful.
Helpful ReviewAndrew
February 18, 2019 at 12:58 amNice find Terrie! Looks like this one may already be sold though. 🙁
Helpful ReviewBharat modhwadiya
March 8, 2021 at 2:01 amGreat article. Try pairing your long sleeve wedding dress with an attractive bouquet and a simple updo to really peak the sleeves of your gown. creative stylist (https://www.creativestylista.com/) it explores a wide range of wedding dresses with sleeves that are very much in style for brides. Current wedding dresses with long crepe sleeves are actual of the moment and on-trend.
Helpful ReviewMrs. C.
September 26, 2022 at 1:53 pmI am a young, curvy 70 with auburn hair and brown eyes, and will be having a “convalidation” ceremony – a Catholic Church wedding which we did not have 37 years ago. It will be in early June, a very simple church ceremony, then dinner at a local elegant restaurant with our Matron of Honor who is my best friend, and her husband; our son-The Best Man, and his young children. I’ve chosen a simple long sleeve, below knee ivory lace sheath, ivory low heel pumps, and a very short ivory veil on a comb to wear at the back of my head. I’ll wear pearl jewelry, and carry a small bouquet of ivory and blush roses. My husband and son will wear dark suits and rose boutonierres. My MOH can choose her own ensemble, probably a blue suit. The kids can wear their Sunday best.
Helpful ReviewCatherine
November 30, 2022 at 2:38 pmIt’s a great article. Many second weddings are older people. Perhaps you could have pictures of older people and gowns fitting for older brides. Thank you.
Helpful Reviewsumintras
January 10, 2023 at 12:01 amposted gorgeous clothes for weddings… I think the most lovely aspect of a bride’s attire is her veil.
Helpful ReviewKaty
July 29, 2025 at 11:29 amWhy don’t we normalize the older bride wearing whatever makes her happy !!!
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