I went thrift store shopping last week to try and find some crystal center pieces for our wedding reception and I stumbled upon “The Wedding Book: The Big Book for Your Big Day” by Mindy Weiss. I have only skimmed a fraction of this book so far, but from what I can tell it is the best $1.50 that I have spent in awhile. She covers absolutely everything from the engagement period to cultures and traditions, creating a look, dressing the women/men, to answering some questions that all brides and grooms have, yet feel like they are the only ones.
The engagement/transition phase is an interesting one filled with a roller coaster of emotion and today’s bride reminded me of it when I asked her the following question:
Best advice you received planning your wedding?
“The best advice I received when planning the wedding was that, ‘it gets better.’ At first this sounded a little strange, but this advice came from a family friend who said: ‘You think the wedding planning is fun, and it is, but just wait because it gets better.’ Then you have the wedding, and you think that is amazing, which it is, but just wait because it gets better. Then you are on your honeymoon and you think this is awesome, which it is, but just wait because it gets better. Then you are married and living life together and learning what the ultimate meaning of marriage is, and … there are hard times, but it just keeps getting better.”
I thought this was great advice because it reminded me not to get too wrapped up in the details of the wedding day, but rather to remember the meaning of marriage.
Many couples do get wrapped up in the stresses of wedding planning and can easily forget about the meaning of marriage. The focus is all on making this one day perfect, meanwhile you can easily loose track of each other and the relationship. The engagement period will bring on all sorts of stress that you may have never experienced with each other. For yourself, when it comes to planning and perhaps getting obsessed over a few of the details, you may be feeling anxious, unable to relax and utterly exhausted. Stay self-aware and try and find out what the root of the cause is so that you can address it and move on. A good way to blow off steam is to write it down. Remember you cannot take it all on yourself.
Also, the relationship can be affected – you might find that you are fighting more than usual, feeling less close and being less intimate then when you were dating. I am telling you, if I knew back then what I know now, I would have most definitely eloped and skipped all the added drama and extra gray hairs!
Just remember that you are not the only couple going through wedding planning stress, many brides and grooms have fallen into this same slump. If you can recognize those feelings when they first start coming on, you are ahead of the game. Try to step back from wedding planning and remember the real reasons you are getting married. Then one night a week, instead of planning a wedding, plan a fun date night where wedding talk is not allowed.
Today’s romantic garden wedding was captured by A.J. Dunlap Photography and had a smaller budget, but a high dollar look and feel. You are going to love the bridesmaids’ dresses!
Beautiful wedding…love the details!
Wow, A.J. You really took some great pictures!
Holy moly, this wedding is such a stunner! So classic and fresh, and the bride is beaming!
LOVE THIS!!!! Thank you so much for the beautiful feature!